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Do you consider your horse nervous, fidgety and anxious and just want him to relax? Do you think the reason is his breed or his personality? Want to change that aspect of your horse’s personality, but don’t know how? 

As a trainer and an author, I get asked questions about horses and how best to teach something in particular. Sometimes, the desired training is complex and advanced, but more often, the questions are about basic things: How to lead, how to load, how to back a horse up, how to make a horse stand or move or walk or trot. Other times the ask is concerning when to blanket, what to feed, how to make a horse gain weight and what supplements are needed.  

The latest inquiry is from a person I don’t know regarding a horse I’ve never met. The person is asking how to make his horse stand still, how to get him to not weave while stalled, and what supplement will lessen the horse’s anxiety. He tells me the horse is an eight-year-old thoroughbred-quarter cross and says the horse is anxious, but not always. Says the horse just won’t settle, and refuses to stand still, and he’s tried everything. He now wants a feed-through solution and wants to know if CBD oil might be a viable option. 

The original note to me stated that people had told him he was cruel and unjust for having the horse in a stall except for four to six hours a day. He came across as angry that folks told him to pasture his horse and that the option of doing so was not possible. He rides the horse two or three times a week for an hour, and believes that’s sufficient. He said that the horse simply needed to get used to this situation and believed that doping him down with calming supplements was the best and only answer. 

I admit that I shook my head and frowned as I thought about all the things I’d offer first. Like getting the horse the motion he and all horses thrive on, adding a friend to make his existence more meaningful. I’d suggest changing the horse’s environment to increasing exercise without increasing demands or anxiety. I considered the man’s worries and adamant belief that pasture time was not going to happen, period. And then I thought about what he’d already done, specifically to get his horse to stand while tied and tacked up. 

Considering the list of things others would say to do and knowing that there were better solutions, I begin writing to the guy. I won’t copy everything I sent to him and besides, our conversations were long, detailed and eventually verbal, so  I couldn’t do so even if I wanted. But I began with the things written above: a new barn with a pasture, a herd mate or five and more riding time. I suggested a shared lease with someone else if all else failed and he remained boarded and living in a stall.

If you know me at all, even if only through social media, you know I prefer to help the horse, not make the horse do any specific task. I like to have fun and I like my horses to have fun as they learn. I always preferred Art and Recess over Math and History because they’re more fun and I figure horses like to have a good time, too. I also like the horse and the human to be safe in all that they do and encounter. And I believe that safety is needed in a holistic manner; the body, the psyche and the mind must be kept whole and engaged to get anything done in the easiest and safest way possible. 

So back to this man and his “anxious and nervous” horse not wanting to stand. I wrote a list of what he could look at to help improve his horse’s overall happiness and to increase enjoyment of relaxation rather than fighting over things causing angst. 

For this situation, the most important thing, in my opinion, is to get the horse more outside time where he can move and socialize, so I suggested the guy imagine living in his house in one room only. And the room had to be 12’ x 12’ and could have a door and a window, food and water, maybe one toy, but that’s it. He never replied to this suggestion. I tried to keep that as the only negative response I made.

The first thing I’d change for this horse would be his having more room, more time outside, more friends and less stall time. In addition, I suggested the following options for him to try:

  1. Change your horse’s mind and you change his feet. If a horse wants to stand, he will. If not, he’s moving. Try new training methods, like clicker training to train what you want. You can’t train a negative like, “Don’t move,” but you can encourage the horse to want to stand. Besides, it’s fun and easy and engages you both in a way that is more interesting than “work.”
  2. Look at yourself and ask if you are causing his anxiety. Be kind to yourself and know that to your horse, “you” may be “ all humans,” past and present.
  3. Energy. Yours, his, together. Diffuse by lowering expectations of him and his moving.  Sit and let him do what he wants and keep your mind quiet. You should begin doing this in his paddock or stall at liberty. 
  4. Speaking of liberty...try that. Just be with him and wait for him to come to you. Your quiet calm will encourage him to be the same.
  5. Play games with him, don’t always have an agenda. “Easter egg hunt,” is a game where you hide treats in various places and containers, both obvious and hidden, around an arena. Then turn him loose and let him find them. Observing how he looks for things is helpful to learn how best to play/train in a way that is engaging for him.
  6. Remember, he isn’t broken, he just needs help. Find the source of his anxiety and help him past it. Is he worried about being alone or being forced to do what he doesn’t want?
  7. Spray lavender spritz on your wrists and on your clothes before entering his space.
  8. Supplements and/or drugs are not training, just a thought to consider. And when there are no supplements or training, you have a train wreck in the making.
  9. Change your outlook—how you view the problem, and the answer as to what to do to help the horse is easier to see. Is the issue that he doesn’t want to stand still or is it that he wants to move?
  10. Taking away pressure as a reward is not an innate way for horses to learn. It’s the most common human approach, but horses don’t act accordingly with each other unless guarding a resource (food, foals, water, etc.).

Instead of fighting with your horse, love him and you’ll both enjoy each other, Happily Ever After!

~Tanya Buck


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Tanya Buck
Published on 15-03-2021
Tanya Buck is an equine advocate, an author (101 Ways to Die with a Horse or Live Happily Ever After and White Horse, A Novel), horse trainer, coach and riding instructor. And if that list isn't long enough, she is also a member of the Front Range Animal Evacuation Team in Colorado and founder of the Horses Happily Ever After Project. Tanya believes that a holistic approach incorporating the horse's physical, mental and emotional state combined with reciprocal communication is most beneficial in creating the bond of champions. Her ongoing work to better the world for the horse drives her to keep doing what she does!